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I have spent a great deal of my life battling illness. I suffered from Crohn's Disease and eventually had abdominal surgery, thwarting the Crohn's and budding cancer cells. Since my surgery in 1995 I have been relatively free from Crohns', although I had several subsequent surgeries related to my ileostomy..When my disease was in remission, I don't think my husband realized how bad it could get, but he has stood by me. I also have suffered from various autoimmune disorders and am diagnosed with Stage IV Kidney Disease. Fortunately, I am maintaining and do not need dialysis at this point. We adopted our son and later found out he had cerebral palsy, so he became my career. Dan has had two surgeries and tons of therapy and is able to walk because of it. He is a college graduate and is employed as an Information Specialist. We are very proud of his accomplishements. I am now part of the retired generation and still getting used to the idea. I do enjoy crafting, traveling and being with family and friends. I am active in my church and feel that the hardships we endure are there to build our faith. I like to live life in the "now" as we never know how much time is left.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

No matter what, they are always your Mamma!

I cannot help worry about my Mom.  I am not ready to lose her.  Just a couple of weeks ago she was here for dinner.  Now she is lying in a hospital bed with septicemia and pneumonia.  So frail.  The doctor has put her on stronger antibiotics and they are giving her some protein supplement shakes too.
She was doing better in the morning and noon, but by evening she starts feeling awful again and gets nauseaus and feverish.

My brother and sister and I met to discuss what to do with Mom.  We agreed she can no longer live alone without someone coming in to look after her besides us.  First my brother said my sister and I could take turns cleaning Mom's place, but I said, we have our lives too.  Is that selfish?  I don't know.  I don't even like cleaning up my own messes let alone someone elses.  We decided that if she is on her own again she will have someone come in to clean...tough love.  Another option is assisted living.  Anyway, when she is discharged, she will end up going to a nursing home for rehab or stay with my brother and have home health care come in.

Nothing prepares you for their imminent death.  They are your Mom.  Mom's are supposed to take care of you and not get old and have to be taken care of.  I love my Mom.


Linda said...

Our mom's are always our moms and our children are alwaus our kids...no matter how old any of us are. I am glad you have siblings to help.

Pixie said...

It is tough going thru what you are experiencing. When my mom became ill, suddenly I was the parent. Now, all these years later, we are going thru hard times with my inlaws. FIL has alzheimer's and MIL is simply unable to adapt to his illness and the changes it has brought about. What to do, what to do.