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I have spent a great deal of my life battling illness. I suffered from Crohn's Disease and eventually had abdominal surgery, thwarting the Crohn's and budding cancer cells. Since my surgery in 1995 I have been relatively free from Crohns', although I had several subsequent surgeries related to my ileostomy..When my disease was in remission, I don't think my husband realized how bad it could get, but he has stood by me. I also have suffered from various autoimmune disorders and am diagnosed with Stage IV Kidney Disease. Fortunately, I am maintaining and do not need dialysis at this point. We adopted our son and later found out he had cerebral palsy, so he became my career. Dan has had two surgeries and tons of therapy and is able to walk because of it. He is a college graduate and is employed as an Information Specialist. We are very proud of his accomplishements. I am now part of the retired generation and still getting used to the idea. I do enjoy crafting, traveling and being with family and friends. I am active in my church and feel that the hardships we endure are there to build our faith. I like to live life in the "now" as we never know how much time is left.

Sunday, October 19, 2014

34 Years, but Who's Counting?

Yesterday marked our 34th wedding anniversary.
Way before Hallmark, the florists, and jewelers decided to make October 18th Sweetest Day, we had chose it for our wedding day.  We wanted the fall with it's colors, and the church and dance hall had all lined up for that date!  It was a warm October day and I could just wear a sweater over my shoulders when outdoors.  The fall colors were at their peak that year!  I thought our service was beautiful.  (I will never understand why our pastor referred to "Who's Afraid of Virginia Wolf?" in his sermon!)
We did our wedding on the cheap.  I had invitations printed at a Quick Print in black and white.  (Good thing as our church was being remodeled and I had to get them all reprinted!)  My dress came off of the rack.  Our flowers were Mum plants (except for the bouquet and wedding party's flowers).  
The hall was just a typical dance hall in Wisconsin with broasted chicken and tips.  We had a polka band that wasn't very good and no one danced.  The band didn't play any of our requests and there was no wedding march.  We also forgot to cut the cake!  I felt bad that our reception was oh so boring and goofed up.  Jim was missing most of the night as he was busy entertaining his family!  I ended up at the bar with my brother in law sulking.  All of a sudden, Jim appears and says "let's go home!"  I told him how disappointed I was with our reception, and he said it didn't matter..."we're married! That's what's important!"
Last night we went out to dinner somewhere where we hadn't been before.  It was okay...nothing fantastic, but that wasn't the point.
I was kind of sad that we had passed the cemetery where mom is resting, but Jim didn't want me to get all upset.  Still, I felt so melancholy driving through the areas where mom grew up and was married, remembering her stories!  Jim said it will take time to
come to terms with our loss, but she would have been happy for us and loved us both. 


Laurie M said...

all you need is love, the bloops from your wedding day only make it easier to remember lol!!!! beautiful couple you are,

NanaDiana said...

Jim was right- the important thing is that you got married and look how long your marriage has lasted. That is a rarity in today's world.

I am sure your Mom is smiling down on you and wants you to be happy.

Happy Anniversary, Deb- xo Diana

Joyce Lansky said...

Congrats on your wedding anniversary. Although I know we had a great reception on ours, the entire night is kinda a blur. Sounds like you remember your bad reception more than I remember my good one.

Thanks for stopping by.


Terra said...

Congratulations on your wedding anniversary. Your dress (the shoulders of it that I can see in the photo) and the veil were very pretty.

Carolee said...

Beautiful picture! Congratulations on 34 years!