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I have spent a great deal of my life battling illness. I suffered from Crohn's Disease and eventually had abdominal surgery, thwarting the Crohn's and budding cancer cells. Since my surgery in 1995 I have been relatively free from Crohns', although I had several subsequent surgeries related to my ileostomy..When my disease was in remission, I don't think my husband realized how bad it could get, but he has stood by me. I also have suffered from various autoimmune disorders and am diagnosed with Stage IV Kidney Disease. Fortunately, I am maintaining and do not need dialysis at this point. We adopted our son and later found out he had cerebral palsy, so he became my career. Dan has had two surgeries and tons of therapy and is able to walk because of it. He is a college graduate and is employed as an Information Specialist. We are very proud of his accomplishements. I am now part of the retired generation and still getting used to the idea. I do enjoy crafting, traveling and being with family and friends. I am active in my church and feel that the hardships we endure are there to build our faith. I like to live life in the "now" as we never know how much time is left.

Saturday, January 21, 2017

Some of This and a Little of That

Today I was at Kevin’s.  Linda’s kids were there going over things.  There is SO MUCH!  I think she was a bit of a hoarder!  Everything was, “you know, you might need this someday.”  She had a nice collection of dolls, but I don’t want anything like that.  I just wanted my little DeMarco statue that said friend, a plant, and some odds and ends.  Kevin gave me her fitbit.  (Didn’t want that going to Goodwill).  I am undecided about things.  Everything is attached to memories, and makes me cry right now.  I might change my mind about some of the clothes, and just put it away for a year.  If I feel differently next year, I can wear it, otherwise will donate it then.  She had tons of purses, everything!  It is so sad.  One sees how much of a lifetime is attached to things.

She had a ton of jewelry, Red Hat stuff, etc.  I told Kev if he wants to get all the Red Hat stuff together, we can put it on my pool table, and I will have the ladies have at it.

Happy to report that Kevin is doing well.  He, too, had been grieving for a long time.  He said the house is so quiet.  I told him, he might have to put HGTV on for background noise!  He is just trying to move on.  Linda had a lifetime in that house, so he has much to go through and give away or whatever.  He is working, playing cards on Wednesday with his golfing buddies, going out for fish on Fridays at the golf course.  Tomorrow he will watch the Packer game with his daughter and her husband at his twin’s house. 


I am going to try and get back at the church's scrapbook.  I also am trying to get back into Bible Journaling.

This is my latest entry.  I was inspired by Jesus' baptism.  John 1:29  "Behold the Lamb of God that takes away the sin of the World."


This is not typical Wisconsin weather.  Two weeks ago, it was below freezing with the wind chill.
Jim could not sell his wildcard tickets, so he and Dan went to the game.  The high was 13°
It was an exciting game, against the Lions, but Jim said never again!

They got to the game early and took this selfie.

Monday, we had an ice storm.    No fun driving my son to work!  He almost fell, and I had to walk him to the door!  (I had offered earlier, but he's so independent!)

This week has been rain, rain and more rain.  The snow is melting.  It is in the 30's and supposed to get to the 40's next week.  I think when Old Man Winter comes back, he'll be back with a vengeance!



I understand about things that I have from my BFF. I haven't been able to let anything go and it's over 4 years. Keep it until you are ready.
Very cool drawing on your Bible.
Take care!

NanaDiana said...

Oh- That is so sad going through Linda's things. I am so sad myself to think she fought so hard and is gone now. She never really had a chance when the cancer came back. That is a good idea about the red hat stuff, Deb. Someone will appreciate it that way-rather than sending it to GW. I hope you can find some peace and eventually maybe those things will bring you comfort instead of making you feel sad. I hope so.
Have a great night. Love to you- Diana

Dazee C. said...

So sad about Linda, glad Kevin is doing ok. She was a brave woman, cancer is a mean disease. Hope you can find joy again in sharing some of her things. Hope you are feeling good in this cold winter!

Sandy said...

I feel bad that I could not come to Kevin's. So hard finding a ride, but Like Amy & Tim, they would be staying longer than I could handle(pain-wise) When I am suffering, I need to be home. This weather bites. I am so grateful I got what I did. Glad Tim could drop it off.
We painted living room so guess who is really suffering now? More ailments are flaring.(costochondritis) Like you mentioned, take some stuff and put it away for awhile when the memories are not so fresh. ((HUGS))

Boopnut said...

My husband said not to take anything too personal like clothes, as I will always remember her in it.

Linda said...

Dearest Deb, there is one thing harder than having to go through our own things...that is going through someone else's things, especially a lost one. I am glad that Kevin is doing well. And I think your husband gave you good advice about the clothes. Sending you a hug and much love.

~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

I hope the sun comes out today and you have a better day. Take care! Hugs, Diane

Gert said...

I know how difficult losing someone you love and trying to decide whether to keep things or not etc. It has been a year on my husband and still not sure what to keep and/or get rid of. I'm so glad her husband has friends and family around. Take care of yourself.